My ethnic and culturally mixed background has given me insight into the effects of prejudice and racism as well as being identified female. I may be able to support you if you feel different, whether you identify with the BIPOC / BAME / BME or the LGBTQ+ community. Understanding the subtle and also obvious prejudice encountered, we can work to find strength in your unique identity, to reconnect within yourself & find your connection within our mixed world.
Do you eat too much, or control how much you eat? Do you exercise so much it is no longer healthy? Do you buy items which you do not need? Do you drink alcohol to numb pain? Do you take drugs to get high but the high doesn't come any more? Does sex give you a short-term high followed by no feeling, or guilt? We can work to find a balanced existence, between the highs and lows of addiction.
If you have suffered traumatic relationships in your childhood or are at present, I can work with you exploring your attachment patterns and how to develop healthier relationships. My couples counselling approach helps you understand your relationship with new insights, exploring why you found each other, how you’ve developed together, why you may feel disconnected from each other & how past relating patterns have affected you, feeling how small changes can bring a renewed connection. I work with your relationship & with your individuality within your relationship.
If you have attempted suicide or have thoughts around ending your life, I can work with you to understand why you feel so lost, historical traumas you may have experienced, or how to find a renewed kindness towards yourself for your future.
Is your body shutting down, are you better off alone, did Covid lockdown help you feel better in isolation or did your thoughts linger to deep sorrow, vulnerability? Do you have days when you don't know how to get going, get out of bed? Do you feel agitated all the time? Is exercising helping you calm or is your body constantly tense? Do you feel like you may be running away from something or someone? I will work with you to explore where depression or anxiety have come from and how to gain your balance.
Our bodies sense our environments and respond to protect us, for survival. When abuse has occurred, our bodies hold these traumatic experiences, affecting our relationships & interactions within society. Understanding your abuse, once we have a trusting and secure relationship, can help you live with your trauma, finding greater self-compassion and internal balance.
Exploring your childhood can be an emotional experience in counselling. Our childhoods create us, sometimes in a wonderful way towards adulthood, but sometimes not. I will work with you warmly, without judgement of your parents/carers, to discover how your thoughts, behaviours and physical reactions were affected by the people you grew up with, gaining new insight into how you became you.